Tag: defense mechanisms

  • Defense Mechanisms: Our Unconscious’ Way of Protecting Ourselves

    3/30/2025

    How do we protect ourselves from overwhelm, stress, or anxiety? Our brains have developed psychological  strategies, known as “defense mechanisms,” that are unconsciously used to protect us from anxiety, arising from unacceptable thoughts or feelings that we might have.  

    In the late 19th century and early 20th century, psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud first developed the idea of defense mechanisms. He said that defense mechanisms involve a distortion of reality, so that we are better able to cope with a situation. He initially produced seven mechanisms:  denial, displacement, projection, rationalization, reaction formation, repression, and sublimation.

    Freud believed that defense mechanisms helped shield the ego from the conflicts created by the id, superego, and reality. Freud proposed that the human psyche is composed of three parts: the id (primitive instincts), the ego (the rational self), and the superego (the moral conscience). Psychological distress occurs from conflicts between these three components.

    Anna Freud, a psychoanalyst in her own right, built upon her father’s ideas. Freud focused on the ego’s role in managing conflict and anxiety. She authored the book The Ego and the Mechanisms of Defense, which was published in 1936. This book is considered a landmark work in psychoanalytic theory, providing a systematic exploration of these mechanisms. 

    “Defense mechanisms are subconscious strategies our mind employs to protect us from emotional harm or unpleasant truths, potentially creating blind spots in our self-awareness and understanding,” wrote Anna Freud.

    Many of the mental defense mechanisms we develop are used to protect ourselves from anxiety, stress, or overwhelming emotions. According to several online sources, denial is the most often used as humans.

    “Defense mechanisms are subconscious strategies our mind employs to protect us from emotional harm or unpleasant truths, potentially creating blind spots in our self-awareness and understanding,” wrote Anna Freud.

    Here are some examples of other defense mechanisms used:

    • Someone who consistently blames their partner for their own shortcomings might be using projection.
    • A person who avoids discussing a traumatic event might be using repression.
    • Someone who becomes overly focused on details to avoid emotional distress might be using intellectualization.

    When I get stressed or anxious, I tend to take out my frustration on my spouse. I am snippy or sarcastic to avoid the real reason that I am upset. Sometimes I avoid a topic as it is too sensitive to a subject that makes me uncomfortable and vulnerable. Admittedly, I have not figured out yet what to do instead. My husband describes me as an onion, he must peel back many layers of emotion before he gets to the core of my true angst. I know I have a long way to go in some areas.

    The human brain does this so to distance itself from unwanted feelings and threats, such as guilt or shame according to Sun Behavioral Delaware.

    According to website Psychotricks.com, it is important and crucial that we understand the defense mechanisms that we use to increase our self-awareness and growth.

    How do you recognize the use of defense mechanisms in yourself? Pay attention to your behavior. Notice where there are patterns when you get upset.

    Ask yourself and keep in mind:

    • Do you make excuses for your behavior?
    • Do you avoid topics of conversation?
    • Do you take out your frustration on your spouse after a distressing day?
    • Do you deny an event happening or minimize its impact since it is difficult to talk about?

    Our use of denial, repression, and projection, for example, may help protect ourselves from difficult feelings, situations, or events; but only offers temporary relief. However, mental health professionals have indicated that long term use is detrimental to our mental health, hinders our growth, and impacts our relationships, as well as our communication.

    Resources:

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    California Learning Resource Network (CLRN) “What is a blind spot in psychology?” 11/18/2024. Retrieved on 3/12/2025 from What is a blind spot in psychology? –

    Contemporary Psychology. “Freud’s Defense Mechanisms.” Retrieved on 3/21/2025 from https://www.contemporarypsychology.com.au/freuds-defence-mechanisms/#:~:text=Meaning%20of%20Defence%20Mechanisms%20Freud

    Denys, A “Decoding Defense Mechanisms: How Your Mind Protects Itself.” 12/25/2024.Psycho Tricks. Retrieved on 3/21/2025 from https://psychotricks.com/defense-mechanisms/

    Kelland, Mark D. “Anna Freud and Ego Psychology.” Retrieved on 3/21/2025 https://socialsci.libretexts.org/Bookshelves/Psychology/Culture_and_Community/Personality_Theory_in_a_Cultural_Context

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    Psych2Go. “Ten Psychological Defense Mechanisms” Video. Retrieved on 3/21/2025 from 10 Psychological Defense Mechanisms

    Social Neuro. “Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Freud but Were Afraid to Ask.”  Retrieved on 3/21/2025 from https://www.youtube.com/watch?app=desktop&v=PAxafcn_SWg

    Tan, Dr. Emily. Uncovering the Meaning of Blind Spots in Psychology.Retrieved on 3/21/2025 from Uncovering the Meaning of Blind Spots in Psychology – Listen-Hard

  • Our Shadows Can Betray Us and Impact Our relationships

    March 14, 2025

    Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung first coined the term ”shadow” to describe aspects of our psyches that have been relegated to the unconscious. Jung believed that our shadow selves contain repressed emotions, thoughts, desires, insecurities, and fears. He theorized every individual has an inherent tendency to project their own unconscious thoughts, feelings, and motivations onto others, often as a defense mechanism.

    Today, psychologists’ theories have evolved since Jung. They refer to these shadows as psychological blind spots. This is an essential concept in understanding cognitive biases and how they influence our behavior, relationships, and decision-making processes, reported the California Learning Resource Network.

    “Psychological blind spots are those personal characteristics that we do not want to recognize,” wrote Jennifer Delgado, adding, the problem with psychological blind spots is that we assume these biases as trustworthy, thinking that we are immune to them, so we deceive ourselves.

    According to Ron Passfield, Ph.D, blind spots can negatively impact every facet of our lives including decisions and relationships as they are often due to cognitive biases and personal defense mechanisms. Additionally, our blind spots often manifest in our reactivity to stimuli whatever form they take.

    Interestingly, Jung believed that our shadow selves are not evil or negative but a natural part of human nature.

    According to a 2002 study by Princeton University social psychologists, we are unable to see our blind spots or recognize the impact of our biases and limitations on our judgment, behavior, and decisions. However, we do not have problems to recognize them in others, but we may have motivated ignorance to protect the image that we have formed of ourselves.

    According to the California Learning Resource Network, there are a combination of factors that emerge to form blind spots:

    • Unconscious biases
    • Defense mechanisms
    • Emotional repression
    • Lack of self-awareness
    • Cognitive dissonance

    Next week, I will delve into the ways that our blind spots emerge. Our blind spots can manifest in various parts of our lives: relationships, professional lives, and our self perception. I will touch upon these in upcoming blog posts in the next several weeks.

    As we become aware of our blind spots, we face them and can break free of their influence. Psychologists and counselors suggest that we can acknowledge our blind spots in several different ways including pursuing self reflection, seek feedback and constructive criticism, practice mindfulness, self-compassion and seek professional help.

    Today, I will leave you with this quote:

    “Do not believe everything you think, said Allan Lokos, author of Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living. “Thoughts are just that – thoughts. You cannot control the results, only your actions.” 

    Resources:

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    Delgado, Jennifer. “Psychological Blind Spots: What you do not know about you weakens you.” Retrieved on 3/12/2025 from https://psychology-spot.com/psychological-blind-spots/

    Lokkos, Allan. Patience: The Art of Peaceful Living. Penguin Publishing Group. NY, NY ©2012

    Nguyen, Joseph. “Don’t Believe Everything You Think: Why Your Thinking is the Beginning & End of Suffering.” Full audio book. Retrieved on 3/12/2025 from ‘Don’t Believe Everything You Think’ Full-Length Audiobook (From The Author) – YouTube

    Oppong, Thomas. “Beware of Your Shadow Self-Carl Jung: On Accepting Yourself completely.” Medium.com 5/3/2023 Retrieved from Beware of Your Shadow Self — Carl Jung | by Thomas Oppong | Personal Growth | Medium

    Passfield, Ron. “Identifying our Blind Spots Through Observation and Reflection.” GrowMindfulness.com. January 25,2022. Retrieved on 3/12/2025 from https://growmindfulness.com/identifying-our-blind-spots-through-observation-and-reflection/

    Tan, Emily. “Uncovering the Meaning of Blind Spots in Psychology.” Listen-Hard.com 2/8/2024 updated. Retrieved on 3/12/2025 from Uncovering the Meaning of Blind Spots in Psychology – Listen-Hard